Blouse: The Limited (Available here) Pants: The Limited (Similar here) |
Blazer: The Limited (Similar here) Clutch: Vintage |
At the same time, I have learned some very important lessons over the last year or so:
1) You don't usually get what you want unless you ask for it.
2) People aren't inclined to believe in you and help you work towards your goals if you don't first show that you believe in yourself.
3) You have to be your biggest cheerleader.
Heels: Target (Available in other colors here) |
The daring to show your self to the world is not an innate quality. While it may naturally come easier for some than others, I definitely believe it's possible to develop these characteristics through affirmative efforts.
I'm s.l...o....w....l.......y learning to become one of those people, but it is a daily conscious process for me to remember to put myself out there and to garner the courage to actually do it.
Women are often socialized in this culture to not take up a lot of "space", to put others' needs and wants before their own, and to not ask for or demand too much from others.
Through a lot of reflection on my life, I realize that I was taught these lessons in many ways, lessons that cripple many women from realizing their full personal and social potential.
Asking for what you want, saying "Hey, I'm out here, and I'm fabulous...Notice me" feels "ballsy" because it IS. So many of us, women particularly, have been taught that doing this is arrogant, selfish, and needy.
It is not.
Bracelet: The Limited |
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